How to strike a balance between self-care and selfishness

Sometimes the line between self-care and selfishness is a little blurry. Dr Schomer says that there should be a balance between the two.

He says there is a time to give to others and a time to take care of yourself. Focusing only on one of the two could lead to a burnout, he says.

According to Dr Schomer people need to learn how to say NO without feeling guilty.

Pleasing other people can lead you to disregard yourself

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Start gently and carefully with a good discussion; tell people what you feel.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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The link between materialism and happiness

Materialism can take a toll on our well-being, relationships and quality of life. Dr Schomer explores the effects of materialism.

What is 'Ghosting' and how to deal with it

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How to raise smart children

Dr Schomer's tips on raising children with different talents and characters, and how to encourage their uniqueness.

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