New Year’s resolutions - what works and what doesn’t

It is that time of the year where the previous year’s goals are reviewed and resolutions for the new year are set.

New year's resolutions are a list of decisions made in order to accomplish a personal goal.

According to Dr Helgo Schomer, setting goals means you will have some clarity and progress.

All of human behaviour gets done by goal-setting. Things get done because we treat what we want to do as goals that need to be accomplished.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Human beings take actions based on planning

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

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