Dr Schomer - Accept your flaws and overcome your insecurities

Feeling insecure can affect one’s self esteem, leaving one feeling unattractive and behaving in a 'clingy', needy and paranoid fashion.

According to psychologist and and behavioural health consultant Dr Helgo Schomer, we all have moments when we feel a little bit insecure, but we also need to learn how to dispel insecurities.

He says that people need to be aware of what to do when insecurities paralyse their lives.

To some extent insecurity keeps you within the humility of you, meaning that you are constantly checking, am I good enough, am I strong enough, am I getting there…

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation on The Redi Tlhabi Show:

A little bit of in-occasion insecurity is a good thing to check if you are on track

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Assertiveness goes with many positive things like being able to express behaviours which you might be shy to express.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

So assertive behaviour is really about how to win respect and influence people, whereas with being insecure, you’ve got no chance.

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

If you have no insecurities you just might become obnoxious, arrogant intolerable, know it all...

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

This article first appeared on 702 : Dr Schomer - Accept your flaws and overcome your insecurities


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