Family Matters: How to deal with loss and grief

Losing someone close to your heart is painful and could leave you feeling all sorts of emotions anger, sorrow, grief and regret.

Loss, grief and trauma councilor and trainer Hilary Mclea says there are no patterns to dealing with grief, everyone processes it differently. She says most people's grief is related to the kind of relationship they had with the person, the way the person died and circumstances surrounding the death.

Some people find their religious patterns and beliefs helpful and others don't find them helpful. Its an individual response...

Hilary Mclea, Loss, Grief and trauma councilor and trainer

People who have managed to get through other losses like loss of job, money or even friendship somehow manage to deal with the loss of a loved one better.

But those who have never experienced the devastation felt by loss of any kind are the hardest hit because they had no prior experience.

I often feel that people who have experienced so much loss in their lives in various ways cope so much better. Not always, but usually arrive prepared and able to understand the process better.

Hilary Mclea, Loss, Grief and trauma councilor and trainer

Pippa Hudson spoke to the author of the book called The Brightest Star in the Sky by Chyemenn Santos. It is aimed at helping children understand and deal with the loss of a loved one.

Santos lost her husband in car accident and after going through the grieving process, she decided to write a book to help her niece and nephew to understand what happened to their beloved uncle.

Listen to the full conversation below:

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