Family Matters: 10 parenting 'rules' that should be thrown out the window

First time parents usually don't know which buttons to press to get parenting right, and are vulnerable to taking any advice that comes their way as long as they believe it could help.

Talya Ressel, Family Therapist and Clinical Social Worker, says the set rules about what parents should and should not do could become harmful.

Parents should be empowered into making their own decisions about what they feel is appropriate, because they know their child best.

That gut it is there, You've just have to listen to it and trust it

alya Ressel, Family Therapist and Clinical Social Worker

Ressel encourages parents to put the parenting books down and see how it all unfolds.

She says the book can provide more anxiety and develop a contradictory environment that adds to the stress. Every child is different, and parents have to adjust their parenting according to that particular child's needs.

Take the information and consider it, don't follow it as gospel. Just take what speaks to you, it's OK to disregard other things

Talya Ressel, a Family Therapist and Clinical Social Worker

Ressel picked out 10 rules that she believes parents should ignore. See below:

10 Rules of Parenting we should ignore!

1.Children’s needs must come first/ Children are the centre of your universe

2.Mother knows best

3.We are all winners - everyone gets a prize

4.Do not argue with your partner in front of your child

5.Treat your children equally

6.Do not cry in front of your child

7.Never bribe your child

8.Sharing is caring -you need to share everything

9.Never go back on your word/Must give consequences immediately

10.Always set a good example for your children

Listen to the full conversation below:

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