With a dream of living overseas, and London in particular, Sam Scarborough took a chance with a man who sold her a dream. Soon after her arrival, bad things started happening.
Scarborough could not believe what was happening because it was totally different from what she signed up for. She thought she was losing her mind and started documenting these moments in her diary.
Speaking to Pippa Hudson, Scarborough says in the past she couldn't understand why her friends stayed in bad relationships but it was when it happened to her that she started to comprehend.
I stayed. I was hooked and i was still in in love with him. I was in love with the story he told me, the dreams he sold me— Sam Scarborough, Author
Her friends offered her a place to stay and professional help, but Scaborough says she was embarrassed and still wanted London to work for her instead of crawling back to South Africa.
Because of her daughter, Sam says she had to really make wise decisions that didn't involve sleeping on her friend's coach. Eventually she left him after six months and came to South Africa.
I was walking my daughter to school one day and she said mommy i don't think he is the right man for you. I said why my sweetheart, and she said because you don't laugh and smile anymore. And those words....— Sam Scarborough, Author
Sam wrote a book 'Trapped' which is her memoir of a time living in London with a verbally and emotionally abusive partner. She says writing the book helped her find her healing.
She wrote the book to help other women in the similar situation. She says the book is not about her, but about helping other women.
When I started writing my book I could not believe how did I not see it, and how did I stay in it for so long— Sam Scarborough, Author
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