Parents are at liberty to divorce one another when the marriage is not working out but children can't divorce their parents. Pippa Hudson sheds some light into how parents can carry on good parenting even after a divorce or a break up.
Christof Sharp, family mediator and case manager at Co-Parenting South Africa says after a divorce the family system moves into two homes. And because the children don't divorce their parents they stay loyal to both parents, adds Sharp.
According to Sharp, co-parenting is like a pathway between the two homes to help the children adjust to their new environments.
Co-parenting is all about choices parents makes. Sharp says if you chose war that's probably where you'll be stuck for a very long time. He says parents need to make it work no matter how hard it gets.
Many of my friend's parents still don't talk years after the divorce.— Christof Sharp, family mediator
Sharp says divorce is a very difficult thing to go through especially if there has been violence and abuse involved. Then suddenly the mediator says lets come together and be nice to one another.
Co-parenting doesn't necessarily mean lets be friends and do coffee, although is best for the kids when the other parent comes in for a chit-chat and leaves during pick-ups. But if its not possible you don't have to do that— Christof Sharp, family mediator
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