Dr Eve, Sexologist speaks to CapeTalk/702 Eusebius Mackaiser about therapeutic interventions, the successes and limitations of therapy in fixing relationships in distress.
People sometimes reach for a pill to put them at ease when there is some kind of emotional or physical distress, but Dr Eve says just taking a pill is not going to work without therapy.
She says there is stigma, discomfort and disease that is associated with going into therapy. People fear being seen as failures and nobody wants to feel that way, says Dr Eve.
What research tells us is that the longer you delaying going into therapy the more embedded you conflictual communication becomes... and it becomes more difficult then to shift and change behaviour— Dr Eve, clinical sexologist
Relationship education is what happens in therapy and being able to vent ... as soon as you can get into therapy— Dr Eve, clinical sexologist
Refilwe called in to share why therapy hasn't worked for her. She says she spent six weeks in therapy with her partner but they are still going through the same problems for which they went into therapy.
Sometimes it doesn't work because the other party is not willing to share what exactly is happening with them— Refilwe, Caller
Dr Eve also went through some of the characteristics people should look for in their therapist to make sure they get the outcomes they are hoping for.
She says a research into qualifications of the therapist is essential and most importantly the therapeutic relationship. This is the connection between the therapist and the client.
Listen to the full conversation below:
This article first appeared on 702 : Therapy and your relationship, what works and what doesn't