Can you always tell when someone is flirting with you?

Could this be the reason you're single?

Given there is no menu or universal code for flirting, perhaps you have missed it when someone was interested in you, which may not be that catastrophic unless you were attracted to them yourself and perhaps they also missed your signals. Could this be the reason many of us date the wrong guy/girl? Could this be why you, are single?

"We're really bad at detecting if people are flirting with us", So says Jeffrey Hall, an associate professor of communication studies at the University of Kansas whose research is focused on helping the us understand when someone is attracted to us.According to the study there were five different flirting styles: Physical, Traditional, Sincere, Polite and Playful.

Redi Tlhabi spoke about her flirting tendencies and that she finds it harmless and innocent. She also added that she finds it easy to flirt with both genders, as far as the parameters of the study are concerned.

The study suggests that some people actually pull away when they like you, they are more respectful of your space and often lean back and are less touchy, which could also mimic someone who is not interested in you.

Have you spotted it when someone was flirting with you? Have you ever had to address it, perhaps you didn't share or reciprocate the feeling. Did you take it personal? Does it offend you when someone likes you and you don't like them? How did they take your rejection or reaction? Even more interestingly, has anyone ever missed your signals when you were trying to flirt with them?


This article first appeared on 702 : Can you always tell when someone is flirting with you?


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