Understanding misogyny (and how it affects both men and women)

Misogyny comes in many guises, and so-called "locker-room talk" can often normalise rape culture and the sexual objectification of women.

Many men have been socialised into misogynistic patterns of behaviour, explains clinical sexologist Dr Eve.

Men have been socialised into believing that it's okay to say things like "Hey b..ch, come here.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Different kinds of problematic masculinity which objectify women need to be challenged and re-educated.

Dr Eve explains that we need to change the patriarchal rhetoric about what constitutes manhood.

The worst thing that you can to say to a man is to be a man.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

She maintains that dismantling misogyny is not about male-bashing. There should be no judgment, just enlightened confrontation.

Dr Eve says both men and women must understand what misogyny is:

  • Misogyny is learned behaviour which means it can be unlearned.
  • it is influenced by a man's identity, politics, culture and socio-economic backgrounds.
  • it's more to do with feeling of insecurity about one's "manhood" than hatred towards women.

These are just ways that men use to control women, because what they are really feeling is out of control of themselves, their own emotions and masculinity.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist
  • it can manifest itself through sexual violence, name-calling on social media and different kinds abuse.
  • it implies that being a man is one upmanship on women and an attempt to control women's bodies and behaviour.

Dre Eve says it is important that people have conversations about misogyny with their intimate partners and friends.

You can find more information on Dre Eve's website.

Several men and women called in to debate with Dr Eve and host Eusebius Mckaiser:

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