What are the markers and demands of true friendship? Particularly friendships that bridge divides such as race, class, culture, sexuality and other identities.
Writer and commentator Sisonke Msimang believes the structure and emotion of friendship can build respect and foster reconciliation in South Africa.
She says it is important to remove denial from interracial friendship and instead acknowledge the differences in lived experience, power and privilege.
In a society like South Africa, if you don't see race, you're either not telling yourself the truth or you're trying to wish away something about the other person you want to be in a friendship with.— Sisonke Msimang, writer and commentator
According to Msimang, friendship is more than just about fun and lunch dates.
She says that true friendships require an empathy that recognises race, class and other divides - not one that seeks to ignore or make invisible.
Friends are also people from whom we draw great strength and from whom we expect great sacrifices when it is necessary to happen.— Sisonke Msimang, writer and commentator
Meanwhile, journalist Karyn Maughan has been reflecting on her experiences of friendships and the support needed on both ends.
She explains that friends should love you enough to challenge you and your assumptions of the world.
As soon as you start understanding the realities that exist beyond the frame of your window, life becomes so much bigger, so much more extraordinary.— Karyn Maughan, journalist
Maughan maintains that it is not that difficult to forge friendships outside of one's own values and demographics.
I realised that I can't be a tourist in other people's existences if I call them my friends... It's about showing up. Being present in people's lives and knowing the realities of their existences in a way that genuine friendships require you to do.— Karyn Maughan, journalist
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@Eusebius most people want the fun element of friendship but no demands. No depth. Friendships have become shallow— Just Tellie (@TellieP) December 21, 2016
True friendship can teach us acceptance, empathy & to genuinely love one another. I believe we can heal as a nation @Eusebius— Nomfundo Peach (@Nomfundo_Peach) December 21, 2016
@Eusebius Was choking up with Karen's powerful story - now James has the tears flowing! Beautiful conversation, thanks, Eusebius.— Felicity (@hearty_harty) December 21, 2016
@CapeTalk poignant conversation about race, so apt. I become so irate when people say, i don't see race— Sonja McKaiser (@SonjaMcKaiser) December 21, 2016