Can you be friends with your ex or do you cut all ties? Here's some advice

Are you friends with your exes?

Whether the relationship ended amicably and by mutual agreement or was an ugly, catastrophic break-up, deciding on how to proceed can be challenging.

Eusebius Mckaiser says he cannot completely remove former lovers from his life and asked listeners if they could be amicable with their exes.

Below are some of the mixed responses:

I don't think you should be friends with your ex because it leaves too many loose ends... You can't eat and then vomit, then eat it up again.

Elliot, caller

My husband and I are friends with our exes, not because of unfinished business... There's no need to right off people. I want to thank his exes for him, I'm very grateful for them."

Karien, caller

I'm not one for keeping in touch with exes... My feeling is that if it's broken it's broken. Forwards ever, backwards never.

Vanessa, caller

An ex, is an ex, is an ex. No good comes from keeping in contact, let alone being friends. Once I accept that it's over, you're dead to me.

via SMS line

I've been divorced for over 30 years and my ex-husband still refuses to talk to me.

Susan, caller

I've found that even though there is an amicable parting, as time goes on there is less of a need to make contact with your ex.

Max, caller

Take a listen to callers share their varying views:


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