Opinion: Laying equal blame on parents in Spur spat is wrong says Eusebius

Eusebius McKaiser takes a look at some of the problematic racial, gender and class dynamics that were at play when a white man confronting a black woman at the The Glen Spur in Johannesburg reacted aggressively.

Video footage which shows the man threatening to attack the woman in a heated exchange this week, caused public outrage on social media.

In the video, the two could be heard arguing about one child bullying the other.

Some commentators insist that the matter could have been handled better by both parents.

McKaiser however disagrees on this reading.

He makes reference to an opinion piece by Angelo Fick about a previous incident of a woman caged at the back of a bakkie in January, and the underlying tones of sexism, racism and class divide among other issues.

I think it is a moral cop-out to say that the only thing that is going on in the Spur video is that two adults were behaving badly in front of the kids. People who say that don't want to deal with the other dynamics.

Eusebius McKaiser, 702 anchor

You have adults behaving badly, you have a white man behaving badly, you have got a South African man without a racial description behaving as badly as us South African men tend to behave routinely. You have a customer thinking that he is at the centre of the universe....all of those dynamics are present.

Eusebius McKaiser, 702 anchor

He says simply placing equal blame on both parents is irresponsible.

You have got to understand that when you unpack those different dynamics that are simultaneously present that the larger power lies with the physical white male inside Spur, which in the context of the history of restaurants in this country we were late to the party as black people.

Eusebius McKaiser, 702 anchor

If that is your viewpoint I think you are pretending that race is absent, misogyny is absent and that South African make aggression is absent.

Eusebius McKaiser, 702 anchor

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