Bad temper? 6 tips on how to keep your anger in check

Anger is an intense emotional response which is natural from time to time, explains behavioural psychologist Dr Helgo Schomer.

Anger is totally human and necessary.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

However, Dr Schomer has warned against irrational and uncontrolled anger.

It's an amazing emotion - it depends on what you do with it.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

Repressed anger can turn into rage, a very unnatural emotion.

Dr Schomer advises that must people practice positive habits and behaviours as alternative responses to situations that trigger excessive anger.

Rage doesn't give you the capacity to have a good strategy and shuts us down.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

He says that relaxation is a key response and allows people to keep "a cool head".

  • use breathing techniques
  • think beyond your initial reaction
  • change your irrational thought patterns
  • use self-reward for a measured response
  • avoid provocation
  • ask yourself: is it worth your energy?

Take a listen his expert advice on how to keep your cool:

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