Gender violence in the Spotlight

How to protect your child from abuse right under your roof

Abuse often happens close to home and parents need to protect their children from becoming victims.

At home is where it really happens.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Since January 2017, 19 children that police know of have been reported killed in the Western Cape.

In some cases, children can be abused by their parent's partner, close friend or even relative.

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve says 1 in 3 children are at risk of becoming victims of abuse before 18 and children under five years old are most likely to be abused and killed at home.

She explains that child abuse can at times be perpetrated by someone a parent loves, lives with or is in love with.

People are in situations where they have brought in a partner, or the partner is not the father of the child, and they find, or suspect or know that this person is perpetrating violence on their child.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Dr Eve explains that parents can be torn and struggling with internal conflict, if they suspect that their loved one is abusing their child.

She advises that there are several red flags to look out for before inviting someone into your home and child's life.

Below are some of the tips for parents:

  • asses your new partner's ability to deal with conflict and inner rage
  • asses their emotional ability to regulate themselves
  • find out early on what your partners views, values and beliefs are around relationships and sexuality
  • find out whether your partner has a history of trauma or violent triggers
  • determine whether your partner has tendencies of physical abuse
  • take note of your partners relationship with alcohol and or other illegal substances
  • assess whether your partner is able to take responsibility for their actions
  • take note of whether your child likes or dislikes your partner
  • always listen to and believe your child

Two listeners also called in to share their personal stories of surviving child abuse at the hand's of their step fathers.

Take a listen to the discussion and visit Dr Eve's website to learn more:

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