How to become more empathetic (and less self-absorbed)

Empathy is important to help keep society connected.

Behavioural psychologist Dr Helgo Schomer says empathy helps individuals understand other people, attitudes, behaviours and experiences that are different to theirs.

Dr Schomer explains that empathy is the willingness to feel and sense what other people are feeling and experiencing.

For me, empathy is crossing the divide.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

Empathy means your are aware of the feeling and emotions of another person.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

Empathy requires individuals to put aside their own viewpoints, Dr Schomer explains.

He says empathy is needed in the country in order to take democracy forward.

We need empathy, it is in short supply here in South Africa.

Dr Helgo Schomer, behavioural psychologist

Dr Schomer advises that parents should cultivate empathy and a sense of curiosity in children from a young age.

Take a listen to his expert advice:


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