There's no shame: Women get real about going through menopause

Not enough ageing women talk openly about their experiences of menopause.

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve says there is a great deal of misinformation about menopause, which adds to the the stigma.

Menopause is when a woman stops having a period and begins to experience hormonal changes in her life transition.

Read: 6 things you didn't know about menopause

43% of women are not going to a healthcare provide despite having these symptoms.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

It affects every woman differently; but symptoms include the following:

  • hair loss
  • itchy and dry skin
  • hot flushes
  • insomnia
  • irregular heartbeats
  • night sweats
  • aching joints
  • digestive problems
  • breast pain
  • frequent urination and urinary discomfort
  • anxiety
  • weight gain
  • irritability
  • vaginal dryness
  • change in sexual arousal

Research reveals that in 2025, there will be one and a half billion menopausal women across the world.

Dr Eve explains that menopause does not mean the end of a women's sex life and urged ageing woman to seek professional medical help.

Also read: Why 1 in 10 women endure painful sex (and keep it a secret)

She has also encouraged women to talk about how menopause has affected various aspects of their life, including their sexuality.

Below are some of calls from listeners:

I'm going through menopause and I have no shame whatsoever about it... The hot flushes are an affliction.

Linda, caller

I don't understand why it is something to be ashamed of. I feel pride of myself that I have come to this point of life.

Linda, caller

I'm 45 years old and I had a hysterectomy at 30... I've had two lumps of cancer in the last five years.

Anne, caller

I've been in menopause in the 15 years and I've had to parent my children and be a wife in a menopausal state. It makes you feel terrible and people are throwing, medicine in your face left right and centre.

Anne, caller

I had a hysterectomy about nine years ago, but I still have my ovaries. I get like four seasons in one day. My emotions are up in the sky and I get hot flushes.

Yolande, caller

I haven't gone to the gynecologist, I'm scared.

Yolande, caller

I'm 76 and I feel that women don't know enough.

Mary-Anne, caller

Dr Eve spoke about cancer risks, hormone replacement therapy, how it affects your sex life and the different forms of treatment to counter symptoms.

Read more about menopause on Dr Eve's blog.

Take a listen to her expert advice and callers share their personal stories:

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