How and when to quit bankrolling your adult children

You can't pay for your kids forever.

There has to be a time when parents cut their adult children off from frequent cash bailouts, says financial planner Sylvia Walker.

Walker says that boundaries of support must be established, irrespective of how wealthy parents are.

At some point, the child should be able to stand on their own to feet as an adult.

 Sylvia Walker, financial planner and marketing professional

She explains that it is important for parents to help their adult children create their own security and independence.

According to Walker, children are only meant to seek out financial assistance from parents in times of legitimate crisis.

It not just because children can't budget or spend too much money.

 Sylvia Walker, financial planner and marketing professional

She explains that parents need to instill the value of money and financial literacy in their children from a young age.

Walker spoke about budgeting, financial discipline, debt, the consequences of financial dependency and how parents can avoid enabling bad habits.

Take a listen to her expert advice:


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