Why Genetic Sexual Attraction isn't quite the same as incest

Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) can often be misunderstood and conflated with the notion of incest.

While both phenomena involve attraction towards relatives, GSA is notably different.

Read: How to protect your child from abuse right under your roof

Clinical sexologist Dr Eve explains that people who experience GSA have been estranged during the critical years of development and reunite or meet for the first time as adults.

Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA) is feeling sexual, emotional, romantic feelings and love between close blood relatives.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

The twist is that these [relatives] are people that you have not seen as children and only meet up as adults. This is the difference. You haven't seen each other and you only meet as adults.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

According to Dr Eve, GSA relationships often form in situations of adoption, sperm donation, divorce or immigration.

Read: Why pedophiles are different from child molesters (Dr Eve explains)

She advises that prosecution, persecution, prejudice, bullying, or ridicule can socially alienate people in GSA relationships and take a psychological toll on them.

Advocacy forums exist to support people in GSA relationships, Dr Eve explains.

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Dr Eve elaborates that South African law criminalises sexual GSA relationships between immediate family.

Some listeners phoned in to share their thoughts and experiences of GSA relationships.

I've got an estranged daughter, who I must and admit at times I did feel... I was having these funny thoughts about her.

David, caller

I've been in a situation where I met my niece three years ago and we sort of fell in love. We'd started being in a relationship and she started sending bible scriptures that say we can't be in a relationship.

Bradley, caller

We love each other and we can't be together because if the family find out it's difficult. What do we do?

Bradley, caller

I was adopted when I was very young.. I discovered that my real mother married her cousin.

Bobby, caller

To learn more, visit Dr Eve's website.

Take a listen to Dr Eve offer her insights and callers share their experiences:


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