Is marriage overrated? Listeners share differing views

The understanding of marriage has evolved from what it used to be in the past.

Relationship guru and clinical sexologist Dr Eve says the notion of the 'marriage advantage' is being debunked by many couples and groups in society.

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The 'marriage advantage' is a long-believed idea that marriage improves people's quality of life and health, Dr Eve explains.

The 'marriage advantage' has been cited by many different professionals in order to maintain the institution of marriage. Research has been done to tell you how healthy marriage is for you.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

Dr Eve says infidelity and the rising rate of divorce are a result of staying in marriages that do not work.

50% to 55% of people getting married end up getting divorced.

Dr Eve, clinical sexologist

She says emerging research suggest that the 'marriage advantage' is not true.

Some have come to see marriage as a lifestyle choice, while others have completely rejected the institution and have opted for co-habitation.

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Listeners called in to share their thoughts on whether marriage is overrated. Below are some of their views:

I've been married for about 9 years now and my views on marriage have changed... I've discovered marriage is just an overrated illusion for stability.

Lerato, caller

This is just a contract. My husband and I have decided to get divorced, but not to break up. We will continue to stay to together, raise our kids and upgrade the relationship to cohabitation.

Lerato, caller

I'm 24 and currently single. The thought of marriage terrifies me because I've seen my married parents who are unhappy. I have no problem committing to one person but, for me, getting married is a trap.

Ntombi, caller

I've been married for 19 years and so far we've had fantastic relationship, we have healthy children and a very secure environment. That's what I've wanted personally from marriage.

Tracey, caller

I'm 35 and I've been married for 9 years now. I think marriage is what you make of it. We talk about responsibilities withing the framework of marriage. I don't feel it's an entrapment.

Felicity, caller

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