Raising the family underdog - your less talented child

If you are a parent of more than one child, you have probably noticed that one of the unwritten laws of family-life is that talent and ability is unevenly distributed between siblings.

To discuss this issue, Relobigle Mabotja, standing in for Phemelo Motene, spoke to creative parenting expert, Nikki Bush.

It can be quite tricky to live with because you can have one superstar child who has it all academically, sporty and then you have another child who has to work so had to get anywhere in life. As a parent you have to parent them slightly differently and allow for the differences.

Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert

Bush says parents often use the school template for talent is narrow.

It is such a relief when you have a child who fits in where you can tick the boxes because they slot into that system, but I think the bulk of children today actually don't.

Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert

We have to look further afield.

Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert

She suggests placing each child in a different school where the expectation of following in the foot steps of the other child does not exist.

Those are extreme measures but, we need to have this growth mindset when we looking at our children, intelligence and ability is not fixed, so we need to focus on encouraging our children for the process their in and not always for the outcomes.

Nikki Bush, creative parenting expert

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This article first appeared on 702 : Raising the family underdog - your less talented child


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