Family Matters: How do you deal with your in-laws when they move in?
When you marry your partner, you are not just solidifying your relationship, you are starting an intimate relationship with your partner's parents. While there are many jokes surrounding difficult in-laws, the reality is that your relationship with them has a huge impact on your marriage.
According to a newly released study, men who are on good terms with their wives' parents are more likely to enjoy a long-lasting marriage than those who struggle to get along with their in-laws.
Researchers also found that a wife's relationship with her husband's parents is a bit more complicated and less indicative of overall marital happiness.
Relationship coach, Stephanie Dawson-Cosser these relationships become particularly complicated when parents move into your marital home.
Wherever we fall in the family, whether we are the first generations of parents who become the grandparents or whether we are the young married couple who subsequently become parents, when we get into this three generational relationship, things can get complicated.Stephanie Dawson-Cosser, relationship coach
Whether a couple moves into a family home, or parents move in because they are elderly or need help, Dawson-Cosser says the sudden competition between these relationships are cause for complication.
Suddenly, instead of having an equal relationship of husband and wife or a partnership, we are now also competing for the mother/daughter, parent/son space.Stephanie Dawson-Cosser, Relationship coach
A way to ease or prevent this unhealthy competition in the home is good communication, according to Dawson-Cosser. She adds that relationship boundaries should be understood for what they are, and respected by all parties concerned
These boundaries should be outlined as soon people move into the home.
Listen to the full interview below:
This article first appeared on 702 : Family Matters: How do you deal with your in-laws when they move in?
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