Blessee's taste of the 'champagne lifestyle' told in new book

Author Angela Makholwa has written her fourth novel, The Blessed Girl, which illuminates the realities of the so-called 'blesser phenomenon' in South Africa.

'Blesser' is the buzzword used to describe an older, wealthy person (often a married man) who provides material and financial support to his sexual partners.

'Blessees' or the 'blessed' are the recipients of the gifts and expensive luxuries during courtship with 'blessers'.

The Blessed Girl follows the lavish life of Bontle Tau, a woman accustomed to the finer things in life and the financial support of multiple men.

Read: Why the 'Blesser craze' isn't so black and white

The story looks at the dynamics of her relationships within 'blessers' from her perspective and is written in the first-person, Makholwa explains.

I speak in the voice of 'blessee' throughout the book.

Angela Makholwa, author

The author says she spoke with a number of 'blessees' that she knew personally and some that she connected with through online 'blesser' match-making sites.

Most of the 'blessers' are actually married. That was the extent of my research.

Angela Makholwa, author

The book centres around Bontle's relations with her three main blessers: renowned businessmen 'Papa Jeff', government bigshot 'Teddy' and Nigerian oil magnate 'Mister Emmanuel'.

Also read: There's levels to the blesser lifestyle, apparently

She's a very proud 'blessee' and believes she's a master in this game. She believes her beauty is the passport to opulence, greatness and material successes.

Angela Makholwa, author

She exploits her looks to access this lifestyle and juggles these three main 'blessers'.

Angela Makholwa, author

She starts out selling hair extensions and the doors open through meeting the wives.

Angela Makholwa, author

She's very cunning and extremely manipulative. She will trod on anyone who will stand in her way of the Blessed Lifestyle.

Angela Makholwa, author

Take a listen to the author share a sneak peak into the book:

Thumbnail image: @MsNicci_ on Twitter


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