Adulting 101: How to learn to say 'No'

Have you been in a situation where you know very well you should have said 'No' but somehow found yourself saying 'yes' because it feels like the path of least resistance?

Career coach, Jennifer Ritchie, looks into learning how to say 'No' in a way that will not burn your bridges.

She says we struggle to say 'No' because we do not have a strong sense of self.

We are not able to say 'No' because we need to please others and make them feel that they are happy with us.

Jennifer Ritchie, Career Coach

It goes deeper than just saying 'No'. We need to look deeper into our identity, what values are important to us, where do I want to go in life and what purpose do I serve?

Jennifer Ritchie, Career Coach

You should be able to stand firm - know how to say 'No' when something is not in alignment with your purpose, your self-values and where you are going.

Jennifer Ritchie, Career Coach

Part of learning how to say 'No' is to learn to do it in an effective way and says your 'No' loudly and convincingly with confidence.

To hear more tips on how to say No, listen below:


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