[LISTEN] Talking Sex with Dr Eve: A perpetrators guide to surviving infidelity

So, you messed up… Big time! You know you’re not supposed to fall in love with someone else when you’re already committed, or hook up with a stranger at a party when your significant other is waiting for you at home, but the truth of the matter is that life is messy and things happen.

In this segment of talking sex with Dr Eve - Dr Eve chats to Eusebius about surviving infidelity through the eyes of the perpetrator.

Dr Eve says that she finds herself leaning towards empathy for the perpetrator. She adds that when you sit at the heart of that pain as a therapist, you are aware of how the damage affects both parties.

Dr Eve says that she has mixed emotions when dealing with infidelity.

We often focus on the victim and have enormous empathy and compassion for the pain that they have, and seldom is there space for the person who has perpetuated the infidelity to speak up.

Dr Eve, sex therapist

We need to have a measure of empathy behind why the perpetrator broke their own vows says Dr Eve. She adds that the focal point of today’s discussion is around how perpetrators survive infidelity.

The first person that you are betraying is yourself. How do you live with that?

Dr Eve, sex therapist

Dr Eve says that to sit and watch the person you love in pain, and think that it’s just because of your actions is a very difficult process to go through.

We are opening our hearts to the 50% of us who have ever done that kind of pain to someone else.

Dr Eve, sex therapist

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