Gay men are not automatically immune to toxic behaviour or attitudes.
Black gay men, in particular, are capable of being misogynists, despite being victims of discrimination too.
Presenter Eusebius McKaiser hosted a discussion with a panel of black gay men exploring the dynamics at play.
Many black gay men can display regressive attitudes while simultaneously declaring progressive politics.
Activist and media development worker Sekoetlane Phamodi says these men must self-reflect and interrogate their own patriarchal tendencies.
Phamodi says they must not avoid uncomfortable conversations or deflect when confronted about their destructive behaviours.
We have to do the work - the work is primarily about recognising our investment in these structural systems [of patricachy].— Sekoetlane Phamodi, Activist and media development worker
Journalist Matuba Mahlatjie says black gay men need to examine how some of their alliances with women can be problematic.
He says the hypersexualisation of gay men, language, sub-cultures such as 'femme' and 'butch' and other archetypes perpetuate toxic patterns.
Because we are raised in a patriarchal society, which a world of social constructs, you will find that prejudice and discrimination exist even in marginalised communities.— Matuba Mahlatjie – Journalist
The gay world is so hypersexualised.— Matuba Mahlatjie – Journalist
Author Siya Khumalo says black gay men need to acknowledge their relationship with male privilege in order to begin critical change.
We [gay black men] ought to take responsibility.— Siya Khumalo, Author - You Have to be Gay to Know God
There is something toxic and unhealthy about people expecting me to express my preference in terms of repulsion against the female body.— Siya Khumalo, Author - You Have to be Gay to Know God
A lot of this misogyny black male anger at being knocked off the straight-male throne.— Siya Khumalo, Author - You Have to be Gay to Know God
Listen to the in-depth discussion on The Eusebius McKaiser Show: