The scourge of abuse has been put in the spotlight once again this week after a video of the assault of Bongekile 'Babes Wodumo' Simelanethe at hands of her partner and music producer, Mandla 'Mampintsha' Maphumulo, went viral.
Then Economic Freedom Fighters (EFF) leader, Julius Malema shared Karima Brown’s number on social media, sparking threats of rape and other violent crimes.
In association with Lead SA, Joanne Joseph sat down with Wits Researcher Lisa Vetten, Founding member of Men's Forum Mbuyiselo Botha and Luke Lamprecht who is a Child safety specialist for Women and Men Against Child Abuse.
They answered questions surrounding some of the possible reasons why men feel entitled to the bodies of women and threaten violence.
Botha says while there have been some gains in creating awareness around the matter, society must continue engaging men and boys.
All forms of violence must be condemned.— Mbuyiselo Botha, Founding member - Men's Forum
Men have to be allies in ensuring that women are able to speak out and seek help without being vilified.— Mbuyiselo Botha, Founding member - Men's Forum
#AddressTheCauseOfAbuse Botha: Families are in fact more often than not to be blamed because you are creating this environment where women would not come out for fear of being shamed, stigmatized or blamed.— 702 (@Radio702) March 7, 2019
Vetten says there are no magic bullets that are going to fix the epidemic overnight but South Africa must persist in its attempts to end violence.
#AddressTheCauseOfAbuse Vetten: I think violence against women is a wicked problem. There are many things that contribute to it and there are no magic bullets that are going to fix it overnight but don't give up, let's persist.— 702 (@Radio702) March 7, 2019
We can do some rational planning around what the kinds of services we need. Investing in programmes that also address children's needs would be very important.— Lisa Vetten, Researcher - Wits University
Trying to explain the problem of toxic masculinity, Lamprecht says men need to adopt a new way of thinking.
There is something very off for me about the fact that men don't want to engage in spaces that make them vulnerable and make them want to care because their masculinity is so fragile.— Luke Lamprecht, Child safety specialist - Women and Men Against Child Abuse
#AddressTheCauseOfAbuse Lamprecht: Internally I [men] can't access myself and because of my inability to access myself, accessing another person in an empathetic way is impossible.— 702 (@Radio702) March 7, 2019
The ability to care for another person is what causes you not to hurt them. In order for us to be empathetic we first have to mindful,be able to think about a person in another way that does not only meet our needs. That occurs in how we are raised.— Luke Lamprecht, Child safety specialist - Women and Men Against Child Abuse
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This article first appeared on 702 : [LISTEN] Lead SA and Joanne host discussion on addressing the scourge of abuse