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'We often fall in love with the idea of the person'

3 June 2019 12:58 PM
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Relationships
Marriage
family matters
relationship advice
Clinical psychologist Ruth Ancer says there is no right person to marry and many people do not know how to love.

What do you look for in a partner?

What are some of the qualities you look for in a relationship and how do you measure the health of your relationship?

Eusebius McKaiser speaks to clinical psychologist Ruth Ancer, who says every relationship is a compromise.

She says there is no right person to marry and people often don't know how to love.

In relationships, we often fall in love with the idea of the person and the good things that we see.

Ruth Ancer, Clinical Psychologist

As we get to know them, if we are not able to recognise and tolerate that no person can meet our needs, no person can really understand us because we are complicated.

Ruth Ancer, Clinical Psychologist

When we assume we are looking for our soul mates who are going to understand us then we set ourselves up for disappointment.

Ruth Ancer, Clinical Psychologist

Listen to the full interview below...


This article first appeared on 702 : 'We often fall in love with the idea of the person'


3 June 2019 12:58 PM
Tags:
Relationships
Marriage
family matters
relationship advice

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