What is 'Ghosting' and how to deal with it

Breaking up is not easy. Having to explain to someone the reason why you can’t be with them anymore is even harder. ‘Ghosting’ seems to be the easiest way out of the “it’s not you, it’s me” (phrase used by people during the end-period of a romantic relationship) situation.

Put simply, ‘ghosting’ means ending things by cutting off all contact and rejecting any communication attempts.

Dr Schomer explains the passive aggressive behaviour (ghosting) as being a result of discontent and an ultimate failure to communicate.

We in this society we are shying away more and more from ending something in a face to face way because we getting less practice at direct communication. Whatsapp, emails, Facebook, all of that is just out there and we getting less and less face to face communication

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Warning signs of passive aggression behavior (ghosting)

  • Procrastination

  • Behaving beneath customary standards

  • Pretending not to see, hear, remember, or understand requests

  • The silent treatment

  • Sulking & withdrawal

  • Gossiping

Here are some of the twitter responses to the topic:

Listen to the full conversation on The Redi Tlhabi Show:


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