Learn how to say NO and resist temptations

How often do you find yourself doing things you don’t want do? Saying no to things that makes us feel good and at the same time bad for our health is hard.

With more self-control we would all eat right, exercise regularly, avoid drugs and alcohol, save for retirement, stop procrastinating, and achieve all sorts of noble goals. This might sound like something that is easier said than done, but not impossible.

Willpower is the ability to resist short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.

CapeTalk/702's Redi Tlhabi speaks to Dr Schomer about how we can improve our self-control abilities.

According to Dr Schomer, we need to stop beating up ourselves when we fall into temptations. He says failure is an opportunity to learn and get better at what we want to do and know that it is not the end.

Self-control is like a muscle, if you don’t use it, you lose it and if you make use of it, you make it stronger

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

We can’t change our genetic intelligence but we can exercise our self-control

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

5 Strategies to boost willpower

  • Try harder
  • Avoid the situation in which bad behaviour is possible – if you want to quit smoking avoid having cigarettes at home.
  • Remember the long term consequences - what is the worst thing that could happen.
  • Have social support – you need someone to rescue you and talk you out of it.
  • Be open about your temptations and talk to your partner about it.

Listen to the full conversation on The Redi Tlhabi Show:


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