In an article published in Huffington post, written by actress and author Vanessa de Largie, she talks about her decision not to have children, and the criticism this has brought on her, sometimes from complete strangers.
De Largie describes being called a child-hater, being labelled barren or sterile, being treated differently in the workplace.
CapeTalk’s Pippa Hudson interrogates a decision taken by women not have children. She is joined by two clinical psychologists, Thabang Tlaka and Charissa Bloomberg.
Like de Largie, Charissa Bloomberg has also made a decision to remain childless. When asked about her decision, she said:
Yes I have decided to be child free and it was a conscious decision and I so identify with what Venessa is saying. Not everyone feels maternal, I love my career and I love my freedom— Charissa Bloomberg, clinical psychologists
Vanessa believes that she wouldn’t have accomplished her achievements if she had children.
On the hand, Thabang Tlaka on her line of duty says she has met men and women who had children for wrong reasons. She says people have children just to satisfy societal expectations.
People should have the right to live their lives according to how they perceive it— Thabang Tlaka, clinical psychologists
According to Tlaka, in order to avoid unnecessary problems a decision not to have children should be communicated before making commitments.