What is co-dependency and what are the signs thereof?

CapeTalk’s Pippa Hudson reflects on what it means to be co-dependent, and how to change or escape the destructive patterns of such a relationship.

She speaks to Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator. Johnson is the founder of Introspect Coaching and is recovering from long-term co-dependency.

What is Co-dependency?

A relationship where one partner has a problem like addiction or a mental health issue, and the other partner effectively behaves in such a way that allows or encourages it to continue.

The term describes any co-dependent person from any dysfunctional family.

It’s difficult living with an addict and often the co-dependents themselves end up being quiet stressed or depressed.

Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator

According to Johnson, the co-dependents gets their sense of worth from the addictive relationship and being needed. She further said that they live in denial and like to control things in a relationship.

In co-dependency there’s a level of perfectionism and masking true feelings

Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator

Are you co-dependent? Here are the signs:

  • You play caregiver
  • You can’t live without your partner
  • You think your happiness is based on the other person
  • You control outcomes and situations
  • You give from a place of lack

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