CapeTalk’s Pippa Hudson reflects on what it means to be co-dependent, and how to change or escape the destructive patterns of such a relationship.
She speaks to Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator. Johnson is the founder of Introspect Coaching and is recovering from long-term co-dependency.
What is Co-dependency?
A relationship where one partner has a problem like addiction or a mental health issue, and the other partner effectively behaves in such a way that allows or encourages it to continue.
The term describes any co-dependent person from any dysfunctional family.
It’s difficult living with an addict and often the co-dependents themselves end up being quiet stressed or depressed.— Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator
According to Johnson, the co-dependents gets their sense of worth from the addictive relationship and being needed. She further said that they live in denial and like to control things in a relationship.
In co-dependency there’s a level of perfectionism and masking true feelings— Mandy Johnson, a registered coach and facilitator
Are you co-dependent? Here are the signs:
- You play caregiver
- You can’t live without your partner
- You think your happiness is based on the other person
- You control outcomes and situations
- You give from a place of lack