How do you stand up for yourself without coming across as aggressive?

Standing up for yourself can be pretty difficult, especially when faced with confronting people very close to you.

Being assertive means that you express yourself effectively and stand up for your point of view, while also respecting the rights and beliefs of others.

CapeTalk/702’s Redi Tlhabi spoke to Dr Helgo Schomer about being assertive without being aggressive, rude or coming across as too harsh.

According to Dr Schomer, aggressive behaviour is self-promoting, passive behaviour is self-depreciating and assertive behaviour is self-enhancing.

Dr Schomer says that an assertive behaviour creates a win-win situation for those involved and people need to know how say important things.

Every human being on this planet needs to have their say

Dr Helgo Schomer, resident psychologist

Listen to the full conversation below:

5 tips to being assertive:

  • You don’t have to yell to mean it

  • Speak from the heart

  • You don’t have to raise your voice to be heard

  • Don’t demand that people help you, ask them to do it – be polite

  • Don’t give up

This article first appeared on 702 : How do you stand up for yourself without coming across as aggressive?


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