Guest : Lisa Sonn
Tonight we welcome social activist Lisa Sonn to the show for what we hope will be the
first of a regular feature on the show were we have a look at the hard task of raising
boys to be productive men in society.
Below is a opinion piece written by Lisa
I have heard this joke many times over the years: “I have thought about murder, but
never divorce!” It is usually met with roaring laughter at a wedding anniversary
celebration or some wise advice from an experienced spouse at a wedding reception
Is it not ironic that this is now an inappropriate joke to be used to illustrate love, loyalty
and commitment to a good marriage? A woman is murdered every eight hours in South
Africa by a significant other, husband or partner. That is an average of three women
daily, Monday to Sunday, 365 days at a time.
The most recent murders in the media are the girlfriend of a policeman who wanted to
break up with him after finding out he was still married. He shot her, her sickly mom and
then fatally wounded himself. Leaving behind a wife and two children, and two other
women with three children between them. There is no logic and this doesn’t sound like
love. He may have loved each of these women, but if he was self-aware and secure
about who he was, he wouldn’t need to cheat and lie and disrupt so many lives with
self-centeredness and searching.
The other shocking story this week was about a school administrator who had been
married for 30 years and was the mother of two young adult daughters. Her husband
has been arrested and charged with her murder. Not only was she murdered, her car
and body were then set alight late the night that she disappeared. This case will run for
months and many lives have been changed as a result of poor choices made.
Two years ago this week, two young women Sinoxolo Mafevuka and Fransizka
Blochliger, were brutally raped and murdered. Their bodies abandoned - one in a
communal toilet in Khayelitsha, the other, among the bushes in Tokai forest. These
young women were living - one on her way to a communal loo in a township early on a
Tuesday night, the other having a quick jog in broad daylight at a popular forest.
I am empathetic and holding the families afflicted with grief and loss in my thoughts.
My thinking, however, keeps returning to the perpetrators of these acts, which to us
seem senseless. What is it that drives someone to murder, injure, and overpower
another? Why is it becoming more and more common to hear these stories and not be
shocked into some form of civic duty?
There must be space for some innovative solutions around raising boys to be men who
care for themselves and other people and raising young girls to be women who choose
partners carefully and are clear about how they are treated as equals, women and
partners. I think a successful girl-to-woman progression is when as a young woman,
getting married or being in a relationship are among your life choices and not the main
and only objective. Many young independent women in this day are getting themselves
educated, travelling, exploring their passions and pastimes and are not in a particular
hurry to nest or settle for a partner who is not independent and sure of himself.
I am a tad traditional - read very. Violence is not a third or fourth option, it should be a
last resort and in self-defence. I think getting married and sharing a family name and
having the children after being married are some of the traditions that can be passed
along with great success. However, where there is abuse or a consistent threat of
violence or isolation, then the woman should probably leave. A great thought is that
children will rather come from a broken home than live in one.
I recently heard an interesting fact at a trauma workshop. Many women in abusive
relationships are safer in that dangerous environment where they are regularly
assaulted and abused than if they plan and choose to leave. There are many situations
where the partner is so caught up in their behaviour and their idea of how things should
be that they will stalk, harass or kill their partner rather than give them their freedom.
So many heartbreaking cases where parents use their children to punish the other
This scourge is daily. Many organisations work tirelessly to raise awareness, guide and
support the abused. Simultaneously, I feel strongly that violence against women is a
‘man problem’. More men need to speak out and act to support a change in society, not
only to restore the image of a role model man, but to deter other men from leading
with examples of violence, aggression and self-centeredness.
Speaking up and out against violence, exploitation, abuse and derogatory humour about
women in locker rooms, at the office, at the water fountain, at the braai and all social
gatherings will make a difference in society. Silence is compliance. Fathers, lead your
sons. Raise them and teach them how to use their words and not their fists.
Awareness, acknowledgement and action are three steps to repairing the damage
caused and working towards a more equal, safe and just society.
Guest : Matthew Griffiths | writer and illustrator at The Inside Book |
Explaining the nationwide lockdown to the little ones can be somewhat of a feat for
parents. Luckily for those struggling to put the situation into words, writer and
illustrator Matthew Griffiths has created the perfect tool.
Titled, ‘The Inside Book’, Griffiths’ children’s book aims to explain the lockdown and the
coronavirus situation at large in terms that are easily understood by children.
Guest : Dalreece Rankin-Andreas |
Doctors, nurses and healthcare workers have become the unwitting heroes of the
coronavirus pandemic, winning applause from balconies and streets around the world.
Hospital workers are dealing with a huge influx of patients, while also facing a lack of
equipment in many cases and the fear of becoming infected themselves. Often, they
face heartbreaking decisions while treating their patients.
Healthcare workers are struggling on the front line and there is a lot beneath the
surface that we don't know.
Guest : Megan Lessing
The Sex Workers Education and Advocacy Taskforce says it wants clarity around the
events leading up to the sex worker's death.
IOL has reported that the Independent Police Investigative Directorate (Ipid) is
investigating the death of 39-year-old sex worker Robyn Montsumi.
According to reports Montsumi died while in police custody at Mowbray police station
The Sex Workers Education and Advocacy Taskforce (Sweat) is one of the organisations
seeking clarity on the circumstances around Montsumi's death.
Guest : Dr. Dagmar Whitaker
Phil Smith | Founder at Germ Free Solutions |
As the coronavirus that causes COVID-19 continues to spread globally, health officials
have emphasized the regular sanitizing and washing one’s hands regularly and properly
is one of the most effective ways to prevent the spread of infection.
BUT the frequent use of hand sanitizer can lead to and exacerbate dry skin
issues. How to combat dry, red, itchy and flaking hands when we’re required to
religiously keep our hands clean and hygienic?
Guest : Dr Vicki Pinkney-Atkinson | Chairman at Patient Health Alliance Of Non |
People with Diabetes are more prone to infection during Covid-19 if their blood
glucose levels are not well controlled, Diabetes SA has warned.
Diabetics also often find it hard to manage their condition if they develop an infection,
says the organisation. Diabetes SA has warned patients to pay extra attention to their
glucose control by taking your medications as prescribed, eating regularly and getting
Recent data from the International Diabetes Federation (IDF) estimates that up to 7% of
South Africans between the ages of 21 and 79 years have diabetes. Based on the latest
population estimates this means that up to 3.85 million South Africans in this age group
may have diabetes.
Many more remain undiagnosed and untreated and so are at risk of developing health
Guest : Shaun Shelley | Organiser at SA Drug Policy Week |
The lifting of the prohibition of the sale of alcoholic beverages in South Africa may not
be as insignificant as we would like to think it is. The implications for those who depend
on alcohol are severe.
On 1st of June 2020, South Africa moved from ‘level 4’ to ‘level 3’ restrictions
promulgated by the government in response to the SARS-Cov-2 pandemic
The South African Network of People Who Use Drugs (SANPUD) note with alarm the
significant size of the crowds that have gathered outside of retail liquor outlets and the
celebratory atmosphere accompanying them.
Guest : Melinda Ferguson | Motoring Jounalist|
During Lockdown there are many addicts who have relapsed on hard drugs because
they couldn't access or afford tobacco. Heroin and cocaine.. Tik.. Meth.. Nyaope.
All these "hard" drugs are all much cheaper than cigarettes at the moment.
As a recovering addict I am taking the Government on, as one of the 10 co-applicants in
the BATSA case. I am acting within my own rights as a recovering addict who has had to
deal with the trauma of this senseless prohibition.
I speak for all of us addicts. There was little thought put into this prohibition and there
has been an enormous infringement on our mental health, our financial sanity and
autonomy over our bodies.
Guest : Xanthea Limberg | Mayoral Committee Member for Water and Waste Services
at City Of Cape Town |
Guest : Daneel Knoetze |
While we are enraged at the murder of #GeorgeFloyd and many others, remember in SA
1 person a day is killed by police action on average, according to IPID stats.
Torture, rape, killings, assault. According to Viewfinder.org.za, Ipid took in more than 42
000 criminal complaints against the SA Police Service since 2012. It only helped secure
531 criminal convictions.
Guest : Lawson Naidoo | Executive Secretary at Council For The Advancement Of The
The Pretoria High Court has declared the regulations promulgated for COVID-19
lockdown levels four and three as unconstitutional and invalid.
Reyno Dawid de Beer and Liberty Fighters Network challenged the regulations as set by
Minister of Cooperative Governance and Traditional Affairs Nkosazana Dlamini-Zuma,
arguing that they encroached on and limited their rights as contained in the Bill of
Rights in the Constitution.
The court found that the lockdown regulations indeed did not satisfy the rationality test
and were not justifiable in an open and democratic society based on human dignity,
equality and freedom as contemplated in Section 36 of the Constitution.