Streaming issues? Report here
Pippa Hudson 2019 1500 BW 2 Pippa Hudson 2019 1500 BW 2
Lunch with Pippa Hudson
13:00 - 15:00
volume_up
volume_mute

Up Next: Afternoon Drive with John Maytham
See full line-up
Lunch with Pippa Hudson
13:00 - 15:00
Home
arrow_forward
Local
fiber_manual_record
Lifestyle

How to maintain 'realistic optimism' and deal with fear during lockdown

26 March 2020 2:52 PM

The founders of The Resilience Factory say we need to remember that we're in our aloneness, together.

As South Africa heads toward the 21 days of lockdown kicking in at midnight, many are beset with anxiety and fear.

Pippa Hudson speaks to the founders of The Resilience Factory, a programme that focuses on teaching the skills to build a capacity for resilience daily, based on The Ten Rs for Authentic Resilience.

Gabi Lowe and Pippa Shaper are both accredited life coaches with years of experience.

So many people think of resilience as an armour that you put on. In fact it is the opposite - it's something that is born from within.

Gabi Lowe, The Resilience Factory

When the Covid-19 crisis started the two looked at their model and found it applies throughout, they say.

For example, our first R is about reality - it's about staring down the brutal truth and making meaning of the mess, and what a mess everything feels at the moment.

Pippa Shaper, The Resilience Factory

Shaper says it's important to separate facts from assumptions amid the mass of information coming our way every day.

This includes finding the middle ground between denialism and dramatisation, where everything becomes a crisis.

In the middle of that is a place we call realistic optimism, which is a place we all want to get to.

Pippa Shaper, The Resilience Factory

The programme's list of Rs includes reaching in, and reaching out.

How is our natural need for community likely to be affected as we are forced to stay home with our live-in loved ones, or perhaps alone?

Whatever we do we need to remember to hold that paradox - that at the same time as we are going into isolation, we are all actually in this together. It's that strange paradox, always, of not feeling alone because we're in our aloneness, together.

Gabi Lowe, The Resilience Factory

The reaching in is really important... We talk about not running from your feelings, but actually facing them. People are scared they'll get overwhelmed by fear but the truth is, if you run from your feelings they will catch up with you.

Gabi Lowe, The Resilience Factory

You need to learn to sit with your emotion, calmly just sit with it and hold it.

Gabi Lowe, The Resilience Factory

She points out that this is a period of massive communal vulnerability and no-one is alone in their fears, which can serve as a source of comfort.

It's also important to reach out to others, Lowe says.

We need to be busy with "we" thinking, not "I" thinking and we need to be finding ways to help each other on a daily basis. It's going to help you to cope to help somebody else to cope.

Gabi Lowe, The Resilience Factory

Find out more about how the _Ten Rs _can help you during this period of isolation on The Resilience Factory website.

Listen to the insightful discussion below:


26 March 2020 2:52 PM

Recommended

More from Local

200206-john-hlophe-edjpg

Hlophe accuses Mogoeng of anti-Muslim bias after calling for misconduct tribunal

8 July 2020 1:38 PM

Western Cape Judge President John Hlophe claims the Chief Justice was driven by an anti-Muslim sentiment when he called for a probe into Hlophe's conduct.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

City of Cape Town Foreshore City Bowl business municipality 123rflocal 123rf

'R1 million salary hike for Wesgro CEO Tim Harris can't be justified' - Herron

8 July 2020 12:51 PM

Good Party Brett Herron and former Wesgro board chair Brian Figaji share their perspectives with Refilwe Moloto.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

insurance-claimjpg

Insurer expected to appeal court ruling on Covid-19 business interruption claims

8 July 2020 12:16 PM

The Western Cape High Court has ruled that Guardrisk must pay Cape Town restaurant, Cafe Chameleon, for its business interruption claim.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Downpour rain black umbrella 123rf weather 123rWeather

Expect heavy downpours, strong winds, extreme cold from Thursday to Saturday

8 July 2020 10:33 AM

An intense cold front is approaching Cape Town. It’s expected to hit our shores early on Thursday.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Stellenbosch-wine-estate-farm-dutch-style-Cape-winelands

Stellenbosch awarded global stamp of approval for safety protocols

8 July 2020 10:23 AM

An international tourism body has declared that Stellenbosch's health and hygiene protocols meet global standards.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

20200704masukunasrecjfif

[LISTEN]The truth about SA hospitals and Covid-19 from a doctor on the frontline

7 July 2020 4:47 PM

Covid-19 positive ER doctor Adam Barnes tells CapeTalk's John Maytham about some of the challenges on the coronavirus frontline.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

mbali

'We need a new way forward' - Mbali Ntuli resumes bid for DA's top job

7 July 2020 4:06 PM

DA leadership hopeful Mbali Ntuli speaks to CapeTalk's Lester Kiewit about her campaign to secure the party's top position.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

missing-runner-ken-stephenjpg

No trace of CT trail runner who went missing along Table Mountain

7 July 2020 3:40 PM

The search continues for a missing trail runner who disappeared after going for a run along Table Mountain on Monday afternoon.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Vascular system virus coronavirus blood vessel covid-19 123rf 123rflifestyle

Recovered from Covid-19? Your blood could help someone still fighting the virus

7 July 2020 3:32 PM

Doctors are looking for 600 recovered Covid-19 patients to take part in a convalescent blood plasma trial.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

190401houtbayshootinggif

Transport MEC meets with taxi bosses over deadly violence linked to routes

7 July 2020 2:30 PM

Transport MEC Bonginkosi Madikizela has met with the leadership of rival taxi associations to address the deadly taxi shootings in the province.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

More from Lifestyle

black-family-house-for-sale-sold-property-household-investment-bond-rent-123rf

'Demand for property below R3 million is starting to recover'

8 July 2020 1:35 PM

For some properties – with interest rates at half-a-century lows – it’s becoming cheaper to buy than to rent.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Stellenbosch-wine-estate-farm-dutch-style-Cape-winelands

Stellenbosch awarded global stamp of approval for safety protocols

8 July 2020 10:23 AM

An international tourism body has declared that Stellenbosch's health and hygiene protocols meet global standards.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Covid-19 insurance 123rf 123rfbusiness 123rflifestyle 123rfpersonalfinance

Shareholder activists grill Santam about 'business interruption insurance'

7 July 2020 6:47 PM

The lockdown did it – not the pandemic – so we can’t pay, argues Santam. Bruce Whitfield interviews Tracey Davies of Just Share.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Cars driving in foggy weather low visibility driving safety 123rf

Capetonians, 5 tips on how to drive in foggy weather...and what not to do

7 July 2020 7:39 AM

Driving in Cape Town fog is scary. Automobile Association's Layton Beard gives a great explanation of the dos and don'ts.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Aisha Pandor SweepSouth Alen Ribic

Job won’t make you rich. You must earn in your sleep - Aisha Pandor, SweepSouth

6 July 2020 8:39 PM

Bruce Whitfield talks to SweepSouth cofounder Aisha Pandor about her attitude to money (hopes and fears, successes and failures).

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Frog in a pot

Are we boiling frogs? And why do SUV drivers look so confused, asks Tom Eaton

6 July 2020 8:18 PM

The Money Show’s Bruce Whitfield interviews columnist Tom Eaton about his new book, "Is it me, or is it getting hot in here?"

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Labrador dogs pets 123rflifestyle 123rf

It seems we've been counting dog years all wrong, say researchers

6 July 2020 10:58 AM

Research now shows that there is a different curve that applies to the life cycle of a canine compared to humans.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

gillian-malouw-youtube-screengrabpng

Meet Gillian Malouw, the first woman in Africa to navigate a submarine

4 July 2020 12:48 PM

Lieutenant Gillian Malouw is the first woman submarine officer in Africa. She opens up about her life in the navy.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Family children girls outdoor cloth face masks 123rf 123rflifestyle

We only have each other – the psychology behind not wearing a mask

3 July 2020 10:56 AM

"I’m outside; I don’t need a mask. If you’re uncomfortable, stay at home." Sociologist Steven Robins tries to make sense of it.

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward

Crazy funny man working from home on desktop computer 123rf 123rfbusiness

Job hunting? This CEO is hiring and interviewing remotely – he has advice

2 July 2020 2:15 PM

"We’ve hired people we haven’t met in person," says Karl Hammerschmidt. "There are things you can still do to impress."

Share this:
Read More arrow_forward